Our Habikins turns 4 today…
Where has the time gone??
Soon she will no longer be the youngest any more ..kind of breaks our heart, she seems to get the short end of the stick many times…but our solace lies in hoping and Praying that it makes her a more loving, caring, and empathetic individual.
Nice save there, huh? ;)
Happy Birthday, Habikins ♥
Que Dios te Cuide, te Proteja, e Ilumine a cada momento…
And if there is anything that I hope we can teach you, it is to always remember J-O-Y.
We Love You ♥
We may stink at Parenthood, but we are Trying ♥
We do the best that two imperfect individuals can…
Remember, we Love you, Always and All Ways.
Family is Very important, they drive us up the wall, and we don’t always agree, and yes, there are times that you will think that you would be better off without them, but when push comes to shove, Family is There. ♥ And we will always want the BEST for you.
Try, TRY to never take a moment for granted. Once the second passes, it will never return.
Even in trials, in pain, in suffering, there is a Lesson to be Learned…
Pray that you may have an open heart to find it…
Keep your Childlike Faith, Hope and Love for all things!
We tend to grow up and grow out of these…
As Mommy and Daddy always tell you, don’t be in a Rush to grow up so fast! Enjoy being a Little Kid!
Keep being Silly! Laughing is Good! No, it is GREAT!! Laugh at yourself and try to not take everything so seriously!
Don’t let what others think form who you are to become. Always remember God Created you PERFECT! He Loves You, even MORE than Mommy and Daddy! More than ANYONE ever will!
Always strive to be the Child He meant for you to be.
Let your decisions, who you become, what you do be led by His Love and Wisdom.
Learn to quiet this world and hear His Words ♥
And finally, there are many lessons more and much more we want to teach/show you, and those will come in time…but do try and forgive Mommy and Daddy for failing at being the Best Mommy and Daddy in the World…
Remember, we ARE, we truly are trying to be the best we can…forgive our shortcomings and realize that even in our failures, we truly thought, we sincerely believed we were doing the best for you ♥
Feliz Cumpleaños, Habikins ♥
This is probably one of my most repeated topics! And for good reason, me thinks
I am consistently shocked by it. And not in a good way, well not all the time.
I have already shared with you here that it is not just me. That time Truly is going by faster and faster! Remember?
And we even have an extra day this Year! Leap Year!
It does not change the fact that we are past the halfway point in February.
In just 22 days I will be heading towards that Life-Changing meeting.
Will I be able to bring my Little Angelito back with me, or not?
This is going to sound bad, but I can’t help myself. I am trying very, very hard to not get my hopes up.
I keep voicing aloud to my Patootie that he will not be coming back with us.
Of course I say it. But inwardly, I Pray that I am Wrong! Dead Wrong!
Imagine!! Me wanting to be wrong!! Unheard of! I Know!
I am quite conflicted. I know I should not be, but I am.
I know I should have Faith in Our Lord.
I know that I should just leave it all in His Loving Hands.
I know that I should simply Trust.
But it’s that damned Fallen Tendency to be Controlling and filled with Fear!
And I know…I Know…
Do not be afraid, for I am with you; do not be alarmed, for I am your God. I give you strength, truly I help you, truly I hold you firm with my saving right hand.
~ Isaiah 41:10 (NJB)
I Know this. I do. I must just Surrender to it. And I am, slowly.
I know that I alone can do nothing. I know that for everything that happens, that for every choice I make, whether Good or Bad, God can and will Be there for me. For Us!
The problem, I believe, lies in growing up. As we grow up, we Surrender less. We Trust Less. We become more Self-Sufficient. We repeat and believe that phrase that all children say as they develop and gain more independence…
I Can Do It!
As they say it, they swat your hands away or move away to demonstrate to us that they in fact Can Do it Themselves.
We smile, we are filled with Pride as we see our Little Ones Grow right before our eyes.
And if they are unsuccessful, we tell them either to try it again or that they’ll do it next time.
There are those ”other” times where if we were not in the mood, we will do the wretched…
I Told You So!
One of the worst phrases ever concocted.
Not enough in humiliating them, we do it for them in a not-so-loving way.
The Child at that point feels like a failure. They will remember to Never Ever ask for help again. They will learn that even those that supposedly love you can and will hurt you, thus trust is lost. Turning them into Adults that still hold fast to these beliefs.
Then there are those Children that given the latter situation still smile and lovingly forgive us for being so vile. They hug us, thank us and embody God’s Love. God’s Merciful, Forgiving, Patient, Unconditional, Never-Ending Love for Us.
It is those moments when we are immediately filled with a feeling of worthlessness and remorse. Hopefully, we will also hug that Child and record in our hearts the Lesson Taught and convert it into a Lesson Learned.
Digression. Surprise, surprise.
My post today is something that was shared with me that moved me to tears…
I wish to share this with you, perhaps we can all learn, value and/or appreciate something from it.
God Love You All!
Story of Appreciation
The director discovered from the CV, that the youth’s academic result was excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never was there a year he did not score. The director asked,
“Did you obtain any scholarship in school?” and the youth answered “no”.
The director asked,” Did your father pay your school fees?”.
The youth answered, “my father passed away when I was one year old and it was my mother who paid my school fees”.
The director asked, ” Where did your mother work?”
The youth answered, “my mother worked as cloth cleaner.” The director requested the youth to show his hands and the youth showed a pair of hands that was smooth and perfect to the director.
The director asked, ” Did you ever help your mother wash clothes before?”
The youth answered,” never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books, furthermore, my mother could wash clothes faster than I could”
The director said, I have a request, when you go back today, go and help to clean your mother’s hand, and then see me tomorrow morning.
The youth felt that the chance of landing the job was high and when he went back, he happily wanted to clean his mother’s hands. His mother felt strange. With happiness mixed with fear, she showed her hands to the kid.
The youth cleaned his mother’s hands slowly and his tears fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother’s hands were so wrinkled, and that there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that she shuddered when his mother’s hands were cleaned with water.
This is the first time that the youth realized and experienced that it is this pair of hands that washed the clothes every day to earn him the school fees and that the bruises in the mother’s hand were the price that the mother paid for his graduation and academic excellence and probably his future.
After finishing the cleaning of his mother’s hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.
That night, the mother and son talked for a very long time.
Next morning, the youth went to the director’s office.
The director noticed the tear in the youth’s eye and asked:
” Can you tell me what you did and learned yesterday in your house?”
The youth answered, ” I cleaned my mother’s hands and also finished washing all the remaining clothes.’
The director asked, ”Please tell me what you felt.”
The youth said:
“Number 1, I know what appreciation is now’. Without my mother, I would not be successful today.
Number 2, Now I know how to work together with my mother.
Only now do I realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done.
Number 3, I know the importance and value of family relationship.”
The director said, “This is what I want. I want to recruit a person that can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the suffering of others to get things done, and a person that would not put money as his only goal in life to be my manager. You are hired.”
Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates, every employee worked diligently and as a team and the company improved tremendously.
The Lessons from this anecdote:
A child who has been protected and habitually given whatever he needs, develops an “entitlement mentality” and always puts himself first. He is ignorant of his parents’ efforts. When he starts work, he assumes every person must listen to him. When he becomes a manager, he will never know the suffering of his employees and always blame others. These kinds of people, may/will achieve good results and may be successful for a while, but eventually will not feel a sense of achievement or satisfaction.
If we happen to be this kind of (protective) parent, this is the time to ask the question - whether we did/do love our children or destroy them.
- You can let your child live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn to play the piano, watch a big screen TV but when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it.
- After a meal, let them wash their plate and bowl together with their brothers and sisters.
- It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love and show them the correct way.
- You want them to understand that no matter how rich their parents are, one day they will grow old, become weak and that their hair too will turn grey.
- The most important thing is for your child to learn how to appreciate, experience and learn the effort and ability needed to work with others in order to get things done. They should also value, appreciate what the parents have done and love them for who they are!
How busy are we?
Geeze! I was just telling a Friend that many times I wish that there were more hours in a day, but then it hits me! If there were, then we would just be busier anyway and probably not spending time where we Originally wanted to, to begin with…
For all you Grammar Sticklers, I KNOW that the above sentence is bad, structurally, but…yes, here’s my excuse I am trying, trying to catch-up here.
WHERE DOES THE TIME GO?!?!?
When I wasn’t working outside the home – because Boy does one WORK In the Home – my days were short and I didn’t feel that I got much done, but somehow I made time for my Blog…
Now…Dear Lord!!! I am spreading myself waaaaaaaay too thin!
I realized this yesterday evening as we sat down to Dinner and I wiped my Little 2-yr old’s nose (she is under the weather with a cold and cough), looked across at my 3-soon-to be-4 yr old as she spilled her Sinigang on the table that her Lola made, and was informing my Other Half that I had a meeting yet again.
I realized at that moment that I was not home! That I was not helping out with the Girls. That if it were not for Lola and Lolo’s assistance, my home could literally be falling apart!
We are about 30-40% “moved in.” Thus, the house in NO Where near where it should be.
Everyone is sick.
I have not made dinner in God-knows-how-long!
I haven’t had a full night’s sleep in, well same as above!
I have not checked my JK’s pouch this entire week! In fact, since Wednesday from Last Week!
I have not been keeping up here.
I am on way too many committee’s at Church, at School…
There’s a saying in Spanish…My Papá Eliseo would be so proud!!! He would have a saying for every single situation and knew so many!! If only I could remember them all
The saying is:
El que mucho abarca, poco aprieta.
Literally translated, it means, he who covers too much, cannot tighten. LOL!! Hilarious, isn’t it?
In English, you could say:
Jack of all trades, Master of none.
Do not bite off more than you can chew!
Either way, I’m sure you get the gist. I am trying to do so much and accomplishing nothing!
Last night I had to drop a Committee! Needless to say, it was not looked upon kindly and I know I’ll be getting a phone call trying to convince me to continue.
But, and please excuse my language here, I do not want to do a half-arsed job!
If I’m not in it 100%, then I’d rather not do it.
Moreover, I want to be with the little ones.
I’ve made the mistake of not being there already! I don’t want to do it again, and I AM! I need to stop it NOW! Before I blink and they too are in their teens!
Today we celebrate the Feast day of St. Michael, along with San Gabriel and San Rafael…the Archangels!
And I need your help, guys! (I have a quick confession, I am partial towards Gabriel, because my Son was named after him ♥)
Each of these archangels performs a different mission in Scripture: Michael protects; Gabriel announces; Raphael guides. Earlier belief that inexplicable events were due to the actions of spiritual beings has given way to a scientific world-view and a different sense of cause and effect. Yet believers still experience God’s protection, communication and guidance in ways which defy description. We cannot dismiss angels too lightly.
I need Much Guidance, San Rafael! I need someone to help me to Hear what I’m to do, what I Should be doing, San Gabriel…and yes, San Miguel, I need you to protect me from any “Misguidance” from you-know-who.
Life…it’s never boring is it?
And this quote I just Had to share with you! It’s also from AmericanCatholic.org.
“The question of how many angels could dance on the point of a pin no longer is absurd in molecular physics, with its discovery of how broad that point actually is, and what part invisible electronic ‘messengers’ play in the dance of life” (Lewis Mumford).
What a week! Emotional Rollercoaster. New Endeavor’s. Still Unemployed. All while trying to be a Wife. A Mother. Not doing so well at the Daughter part. Nor the Sister Part. This is not to say that I am doing great at the other two roles either. But at least I am giving those a bit more attention. Oh, and I forgot Housekeeper too. Really bad at that one! I have two little Monsters that ensure my failure at keeping an organized, clean environment.
And speaking of Little Monsters. I want to share with you all an email that el Padre Roman sent me. It may be a tad harsh, but quite Real…
It is titled, “Despierta” Awaken or probably more in keeping with the content, WAKE UP!
This can be called, Cowardly Parent Complex.
What seems to be happening is that we are confusing or misunderstanding what love is and we are dedicating ourselves to making our children happy, to satisfying their capriciousness, to resolve their lives, and we don’t think to prepare them for a Difficult Life.
This way, our children will Never learn to earn a living and be self-sufficient.
This is called making them Dependent and Useless.
Each day, Sons and Daughters, allege that they are unable to help out with Chores and Domestic Duties arguing that their sole responsibility is their Studies, all else is the Parents’ responsibility.
That is called a Dependent Ingrate, a Freeloader.
In Sacrifice of a Misunderstood Happiness, we try and fill them with Material Things. They are bought the Best Clothes, or the Most Expensive Shoes. They attend the Best Private Schools. They are provided with money for Going Out, Money for their Expenses, if possible a New Car, and other “Financial Commitments” that they make, though the don’t Make the Money and what’s worse, they Believe it is Your Obligation as a Parent.
You sacrifice by all means possible so that your Children can have the Best and they are Never Satisfied.
What you do receive from them are Demands and Selfishness.
We have given them so much, that they feel the Deserve Everything, they have a Great sense of Entitlement.
We have given them so much attention that they feel they are the Center of the Universe. Laden with Selfishness, they feel that the world should revolve around them, and that the only thing of Value, Importance and Fundamental, is Them.
We do not make them aware or take heed of their role as Responsible Individuals.
If I, as a Parent, live up to my Obligation of Providing for them, their personal needs, their Health, Schooling…
They are to live up to their Obligations which are to do well in School and help out in the Home.
What is happening with these Newer Generations?
If we look back to our youth, be that a long time ago or not that long ago, things were quite different.
We did not have a Cell Phone…and Nothing Happened.
We did not have a Laptop or maybe even a Desk Top…and we managed.
We were satisfied and maybe even Grateful with the clothes that we were bought and we did not feel different or rejected because we did not use or have Brand Names.
If you were Chastised, you were denied permission to go somewhere or do something, or even “Smacked upside your head,” you did NOT disrespect your Parents, much Less Threaten them.
If you went to a Party or a Get Together, you committed to being home at a certain hour and you respected it, whether you liked it or not, otherwise, you wouldn’t get Permission to go out the next time you asked.
And that was not a reason to Scream, Yell, Slam Doors, Blackmail, Pout, or for weeks go around the house with fake smiles or moping.
Then, there existed a very important Value that we were taught from Early Childhood, it was called: Respect.
It is now unknown, it does not exist, we know not where it is, or where it hid so that our Children cannot find it, much less Practice it.
There were Preponderant Values: One was Order, another Discipline, and the other, Obedience.
Nowadays, some parents don’t help with the Homework, they Do the Homework. Even with so many resources available, which they will also find for them, the only thing they have left to do is take the Exams for them.
And this entire Circus so that the child won’t have a Tantrum, won’t suffer from dehydration from so many tears shed, and the saddest reason…to “maintain Peace in the Home,” where the Creditworthiness and Authority of the Parents many times does not Exist.
What can we say about the Home, where to avoid discussions and conflict - since the refrain of: “Johnny I am counting to 3. One. Two. Two and a Quarter. Two and a Half.” As if we were teaching Fractions. Or the other Classic: “I am counting to 10. One. Two…” - we have become our Childrens’ Accomplices.
We must, of course, keep our mouths shut so that we don’t drag them down with our constant nagging. And on top of that, we don’t allow them to become “exhausted,” even picking up their Own things.
What ever for? We tell ourselves, that they have no fault in any of our “issues.” They did not ask to be born.
How Mistaken we are…
Then we were not Overprotected, nor were our Problems solved for us, we were Free even to Make Mistakes, which led us to develop a sense of Responsibility and Identity.
That is called Growing Up.
During this Growing-Up Process, a few “Smacks Upside the Head” were not exempt, nor was a Good Spanking - which never Traumatized anybody – to make you Obey.
Then, your Father’s Voice was listened to with Respect, your Mother’s orders were followed without protest, and their advice was not seen as idle chatter, empty words, preachiness, or nagging.
You Never said to your Parents, “Shut Up!” or “Yeah, Whatever.”
Then, the Parents set the limits, made the rules, and created the conditions. They were not afraid that their Sons or Daughters would say, “You don’t understand me,” “It’s none of your Business,” “You don’t know what you’re talking about,” “You’re Worse,” or the typical, “I am Leaving or Running Away.”
They knew, where were you going to go that you would be treated better or have it better than at home?
You basically had two tasks, getting angry and turning right around and being happy again.
Then, if you didn’t want to eat what was made, you stayed hungry. You were not given money to order something else or go out and get something.
Then, Parents did not Justify Bad Grades, Bad Behaviour is School, or your Disrespecting a Teacher, or your Lack of Helping Out around the House.
Then, your Parents said no. And No meant NO.
Then, the Paternal Figure was quite different from how it is seen now. Then, Love, Respect and Consideration did not give way to: ”My Dad’s Crazy,” “He’s Old, or Old-Fashioned,” “He’s Selfish,” “He’s Neurotic,” “He has Issues,” “He’s totally Clueless,” and so many more.
They cause me Great Pain, and I am unsure if it is due to who emits them or who receives them.
What are we going to do with the Youth, the Children of Today?
Selfish, Freeloaders, Dependent, Irresponsible, Disrespectful, Rude, Foul-mouthed, Swindlers both Financially and Emotionally.
If you do not give them money, they will lie to get it, or they’ll steal it from you, or they’ll just get plain Angry. If you do not give them permission to go out, they get angry and sneak out anyway. If you chastise them, they talk back and don’t listen. If you try and find them, they turn off their cell phones. If they get bad grades, who cares, you’re the one “Buying” anyway.
Teach them to earn their own money Honestly so that they can learn the value of it, manage it and enjoy it.
Teach them to value to opportunity to obtain an education, not everyone has the privilege of earning a degree, having a profession and plan for a steady and stable life.
Teach them to Respect others so that when they have their Husband or Wife, they will know how to cultivate and maintain a good Marriage. Equality between men and women is not to disrespect one another, nor is it to have control or power over the other.
Teach them to create a Scale of Values which will make them Decent, Respectable Human Beings, useful to their families and to society.
Make them aware that Values are not outdated, old-fashioned, out-of-style, or museum relics.
Teach them to Love Themselves, to have Self-Confidence, so that when they have their own children, they will Love Them and Educate Them. So that they will have Credibility in their Relationships.
WAKE UP PARENTS!
Let’s get on the ball, let’s make our Value Scale Standard, so that our Children can learn what Respect, Commitment, Honesty, Humility, Courtesy, Prudence, Generosity, Gratitude, and a Noble Heart are.
We Must offer them this Lesson that will make of them Beings of Excellence.
Although in our Present time it is not easy and it will be difficult, practically impossible to practice, attempt it a Thousand times, Ask God for Wisdom. He will help you Accomplish it.
Try it and See…
As I read a Blog Post from Word On Fire, I shuddered.
The Title, “To Put Aside Childish Things.”
All I could think was, I don’t want to be the type of parent whose kids, whose “Children,” need the results of the studies and/or assistance of the MacArthur Foundation Research Network on Transitions to Adulthood.
I mean really? If you’re 34 or the person you are interested in is 34 and still living at home with no independence in sight, there is something really wrong.
I understand that many times, for cultural and economic reasons, one stays at home longer than the traditional 18 yrs. of age. Or maybe reasonable 25-27 (To finish Grad School). But, to initiate “an entity which views ‘the early years of adulthood, roughly age 18 to 34, as a neglected part of the life span that deserves close study’” (Word on Fire). Is that not going a bit too far?
It reminds me of the movie “Failure to Launch.” If you haven’t seen it, it is basically a film about a thirty-five year old male named Tripp (played by Matthew McConaughey). He is attractive, drives a great car, sails, he’s witty, active, a great catch. But, there is a catch, Tripp still lives with his parents. And it is just too convenient for him on too many levels.
Now, his parents no longer want him at home (Mom and Dad played by Kathy Bates and Terry Bradshaw, respectively. BTW, Great scene of Bradshaw’s Behind ). To help their son leave, they hire Paula (played by Sarah Jessica Parker), who is a Professional Motivator. She assists parents in getting their sons to leave home. She gets the men to Fall for her, and motivates them to move out.
Not the best movie ever, but funny. And in this context, Sad and Scary.
Once you have read the Article “To Put Aside Childish Things.” You will see that as Parents, that by being Wimps or as Fr. Mario calls us “Wimpified Parents”, we are not only hindering our Children’s Independence, but their Spiritual Growth as well.
In the word Independence, there is so much implied. By being overbearing, overinvolved, coddling, or simply frightened Parents, we really harm our kids. How are they going to learn responsibility? How are they going to learn to fend for themselves? How are they going to develop that instinct that warns us and guides us in regards to who is trustworthy. How are they going to think for themselves? How will they ever make decisions for themselves? How will they grow in their Faith if it is fed and imposed on them?
As horrible and frightening as it is for us as Parents to see our Children suffer, no matter what the age, Suffering creates Character. Suffering will only make them Stronger. I realize it’s cliché. But there is so much truth to these sayings.
It is through suffering that we find not just who our true friends are, but we also find out that Family really and truly is there. Or at worst And at BEST, we find God. We discover that we truly never are alone and that He is always there to comfort, console and protect us. IF we let Him.
Let us not Cripple our Children. We may think that we are protecting them, but in reality we are causing them so much harm. The reality is that we will not always be there…and then what? What will they do? Do you really want to do that to them? Do you want them to suffer needlessly and alone because you never gave them the tools…you never TRUSTED them enough to do it on their own?
I have seen firsthand what this does to a Person.
There is nothing more painful than to see a man unable to “man-up” because he doesn’t know how.
There is nothing worse for an individual than to think that they have a Partner, only to realize that in reality, they are just another “Kid” that you have to take care of and help to “grow up.”
There is nothing more frustrating and angering than to see an “Adult” not take responsibility for their actions because they do not know how. They never have before and have no idea how to start.
There is nothing more humiliating for a Mother and Father than to see their Son not know how to be a “Real Man” for his family because you coddled him to such a degree that he doesn’t know how to Protect, Respect, Value or Appreciate. He only knows Entitlement, Selfishness, and Lack of Responsibility. The same goes for a Daughter who was so coddled that she knows nothing about Loving, Caring, or Self-Sacrifice. **Let me add here that I am in no way trying to be SEXIST! All of these Flaws and Qualities apply to BOTH Men and Women. I just didn’t want it to seem that I was coming down Hard on the Male Counterparts**
There are too many people like this already. And yes, they do range in ages and yes, mostly in the 18-34 yr. category.
Let’s work on what we as Parents Strive for:
- Giving Our Children Everything we didn’t Have.
- Making Everything Better for Them.
- Making Life as Wonderful, Beautiful and Enjoyable as it Can Be.
But let’s do it in a way that won’t Harm them, Cripple them, or make them useless Human Beings.
Let’s do it the Best Way Possible. Providing them with all the Tools that they will need to Deal with the Real World. Providing them with the Knowledge, Courage and Strength to Confront and Deal with Real Issues, Heartaches and Suffering.
And if you Give them the Gift of Faith, Teach them about the Love of God, Teach them that Suffering isn’t useless, or Unnecessary, Explain to them about Purification through Suffering, Growth through Suffering, then they will know that all is not in vain.
Remember anything worthwhile is worth Working for, Fighting for, Suffering for.
At times it can be the most rewarding Job ever created. When your Baby looks up at you with so much Trust, so much Love and Smiles. Nothing in this entire World can Weaken your Heart, Bring you to your Knees, all while Making you So Proud and Filling you with so much Fear all at once! There is nothing, not a thing you wouldn’t do for that Child.
And then there’s those other times. Those times when the Baby just won’t stop crying. You changed the Diaper, tried feeding, rocking, singing, undressing the Baby to make sure there was nothing pinching, squeezing, or hurting the Baby. You’ve tried it ALL and the Baby Just Won’t STOP! You just want to run. Scream. Cry along side that Child. You feel so Helpless, so Useless, so Frustrated. You just want the Baby to stop.
It’s funny how in a Blink of an eye one can go from one emotion to the next.
But it doesn’t end there. Oh, no. Your Baby starts growing into a Toddler. The Terrible 2′s. Then into a Pre-K. Then a real Kid. Then a Tween. A Teen. A Young Lady/Man. An Adult. No matter what the phase, the age, the ability to go from One extreme on the Emotional Bar to the Other is always there.
The worst thing for me. The worst thing about Being a Parent is Failing. It is Knowing that you have failed and there is nothing you can do to fix where you messed up.
Sure you always hear that “It’s Never Too Late.” It may not be too late to Start a Different Relationship with your Child. But when you have Failed them. When you have Ruined their Childhood. You can’t get that Back!
You can try picking up at the New Phase and Trying to Build and Create…But that which you Missed out on, that which you ruined…Gone.
I Pray that My Children can Forgive Me One Day.
I Hope that they can Forgive my Selfishness. My Lack of Sacrifice. My Lack of Being a True Parent. Of Putting them Before my Selfishness.
Over the years, I and others, have tried to help me “Justify” my decisions. My Mistakes. If you look hard enough…No…That’s the thing, you don’t even have to look. Justifying Wrong is EASY. Society helps us with that in a Heartbeat. Situational Ethics, anyone?
The World will always tell us that it’s okay for us to put “#1″ First. You have to take care of yourself before you take care of others.
That’s not what Jesus did. That’s not what we are called to do.
He Served. We are Called to Serve.
He Sacrificed. We are Called to Sacrifice.
He Died for Us. He Gave All for Us. For our Shortcomings, for our Selfishness, for our Depravity, for our Apathy, for our Greed, for our Irresponsibility. He Died for Us. He Died for YOU and for ME.
And I couldn’t give just a little. I couldn’t Sacrifice just a Little. I couldn’t put Them before Myself.
I am So Sorry, Pumpkin. I am So Terribly Sorry, Papa Bear. I am SO, SO Sorry My Little Angel, My Handsome Baby Boy.
I Failed You. I can’t Fix It. I don’t know how.
But DO KNOW that I Love You. You may not believe it. You may not know it. But I DO! As Hollow as it sounds, as Empty and Pathetic as it sounds, I Love You. I Always Have. I Always Will.
If you give me an Opportunity, which I don’t deserve, I will try. Just be Patient with a Flawed, Sinful, Fallen Creature that I Trying to be Better.
You May have to TELL ME what you Need. Point Blank. Tell Me. If you don’t ask, I may think I’m giving you what you want, but I may not be giving you what you Need. Please Tell Me What you NEED.
I know that First and Foremost it’s ME. And I’m Here.
As a Parent, If you ask yourself what’s worse than Family Guy, Jerry Springer and other similar trash on TV ? You might say Nothing is Worse. After All, that’s as Bad as Television can get.
You might want to think the question again though. Family Guy and Jerry Springer have become far too obvious for Satan to use as a means of polluting our Families and Children. Instead, he’s now using a tactic that the Ancient Greeks used to siege the City of Troy:
The Trojan Horse.
While Historians and Scholars debate the historical facts about the Trojan Horse, the Concept is still the same today.
By destiny compell’d, and in despair,
The Greeks grew weary of the tedious war,
And by Minerva’s aid a fabric rear’d,
Which like a steed of monstrous height appear’d:
The sides were plank’d with pine; they feign’d it made
For their return, and this the vow they paid.
Thus they pretend, but in the hollow side
Selected numbers of their soldiers hide:
With inward arms the dire machine they load
And iron bowels stuff the dark abode.
-Virgils Aenid, Book 2.
ICarly was the Number One Kids show as rated by Nielsen Media Research (NMR) in 2009.
The show is centered around a teenaged girl named Carly Shay who lives with her 28 year old brother Spencer, in a Seattle Loft Apartment. Together with her Two best friends they produce a Webcast (TV Broadcast on the World Wide Web) eponymously known as “ICarly”.
It seems innocent enough right ?
Let’s look at this “Trojan Horse” detail:
- The only Parental Figure, Spencer, is depicted as an Immature, Bumbling Idiot. The Origin’s of Carly’s Mother are never mentioned and her Father, while mentioned on many occasions never makes an appearance. Already we see the lack of any parental guidance and a total breakdown of the Traditional Family. The Lack of any Parental Supervision is quite normal. The only Parent is an Imbecile. The message that gets across is “ Parents are Idiots, We don’t Need Them”.
- Episodes often contain the same recurring themes. Carly’s friend Sam is proud of her ability to Lie. Carly always has a Crush on some boy (usually “Bad” boys). Sam is mean, aggressive and always ready to start a fight. Sam is always mean to their friend Freddy, the last character in the Triumvirate. The message here is “There are no consequences to our actions” and “Being Bad is Cool”.
- The Teenagers are often depicted without having any boundaries. They do as they please. After all, Spencer is a Moron. There is no responsibility for their actions. The message to Children is clear “Parents Get in the Way of What we Want”.
- Freddy is constantly emasculated by Sam. The message is “It’s Ok to disrespect others”.
- In Many episodes, the Lead Characters lack any Empathy towards their fellow human beings. All that matters is themselves.
- The Show depicts many over the top and unrealistic events.
The Negative Behaviours far outweigh anything that could even be considered positive about the series.
If you search the Web, you’ll find numerous resources so that you can do your own research and make an informed decision. You don’t have to watch many episodes either to see for yourself. I wouldn’t recommend the latter as it can be an unpleasant and insulting experience.
If you have Children you’ve probably already heard of, or seen an episode or two. The show is aimed at “Tweens” or ages 9-12 old. Nickelodeon (YTV in Canada) have marketed this as a Kids Comedy. Since the show is Aired on Channels for Kids, as Parents we are less likely to pay any attention to the show’s Content. You might even allow the show into your homes on a Regular Basis.
Companies like Nickelodeon and Disney have been competing for Ratings. While they MAY at one time have been interested in bringing quality programming into Family’s Homes, It’s all come down to Ratings and the Almighty Dollar. It’s not the Obvious Filth on TV we have to watch out for anymore.
We have to be diligent in Preventing Satan from using Trojan Horse Tactics to Infiltrate and Poison our Lives.
Time won’t give me Time…
Remember that one?
I don’t recall where I read this stat, but it stated that most people, including yours truly, would trade money for time. We Never have enough it. There could be 28 hrs. in a day and still I am quite certain that we wouldn’t put those additional hours towards what matters, what truly matters.
Yet, once again, the Little Ones have it right!
It is quite humbling when my Children, especially my 13 yr. old (a couple of weeks away from being 14, and soon-to-behave like a REAL Teenager), my Baby and Toddler teach me, time and again, how I am to live life. In different ways, but, they do.
My 13 yr. old is what many call an “Old Soul.” He is wise beyond his years. Always has been. I recall when he was in Kindergarten. They were talking about Harriet Tubman. They were not really going into all the Wretched details of Slavery, they just wanted to teach the kids who she was. My, then 5 yr old, not only uses the Word Slavery, but goes into the details of it. He began explaining to his little classmates how the Slaves were brought over from Africa. How they were treated worse than animals. That they were not treated like humans. The part of his Explanation, however, that touched the Teacher and myself, was when he said that we had not learned our Lesson from our Mistakes. We don’t treat everybody equally. It is our responsibility to teach others that Papa Dios made us all the same.
Even at his age now, officially a Teen and yet still not under the duress of being one, he tells me:
~Mommy, You’re too hard on yourself. We all know how much you have sacrificed and what you have gone through, even [my Sister]. She may not tell you, but, trust me Mom, she knows. You do the best that you can. Besides, all that really matters is that you Love us and you’re there for us in any way that you can.
Whenever he speaks to me like this, I can’t help but bawl. It is Painful for me. I have asked him a couple of times to forgive me my mistakes and my Very, Very Many Shortcomings. His response is that he has nothing to forgive because I am his Mommy and he Loves me.
He continually surprises me with how kind, gentle and forgiving he is. Not to mention Extremely Intelligent! He was 3 yrs old when he told Jennifer, a University Student at UCSD, that he wanted to be a Paleontologist. She laughed, looked at me and she said, “I go to UCSD, and have no idea what a Paleo…whatever is!”
He has the Gift of Loving Books, always has, still does, that is what explains his knowledge of Dinosaurs and Slavery, among other things. As with any Healthy Teen, however, Video Games do take the Front Seat to many things now. ;)
I know, I went off on a tangent about my son, I just Miss Him…I Miss them All…Whether they believe it or not, I Truly and Painfully Do…Take a Deep Breath and…
Yes, the Little Ones DO Teach Me, Thank God they do!
My Toddler and Baby don’t worry about financial situations. They don’t worry about work. They don’t worry about what to make for Dinner. Much less if the House is Clean.
When Mommy and Daddy are around, they know what matters. That we all be together, spend time together, whether it be playing or reading to them. Enjoying one another as a Family should.
The Baby is now walking. She will walk very proudly towards her Dad, squeal, then turn right back to me. She engages both of us. She shares her triumphs with us.
My Toddler will see that I am Pre-occupied and not really paying attention to her. Well, she’ll start calling me and won’t stop until I Stop:
~Mom. Mom. Mommy. Mommy. Mom. Mommy.
~Yeeeeeeeees (But not looking at her).
~Mom. Mom. Mooooooooooooom. Mooooooooom.
~Que quieres, what do you want (Still not looking).
At this point, she’ll drag a chair so that she can reach me, grab my head, turn me to face her and will say again:
Now, if my Dialogue does not really deliver the “Impact” of the Mom, Mommy…
After all of this, and Trying my best not laugh, I will look right at her and simply say, “Yes, Mija.” Then she will tell me the all-important story that needed my full attention. To be fair, all of her stories and accounts should get my full attention, but, they don’t. I get caught up in other things, that in all reality, and we’re honest with ourselves, can wait. Oh, for the record, my 15 Month Old, grabs my face now so that I will look at her when she speaks too. :S How sad is that?!?! HILARIOUS!! But sad that she has to go to those lengths at her tender age as well.
But This…this is the Lesson that won’t stick. This is the Lesson that I receive Daily and yet, forget:
First thing in the Morning and right before bed, my Kids will turn and say Hi to Papa Dios, La Virgencita, Their Angelito de la Guarda and El Niñito Dios.
Mind you, they do have to be reminded of their Prayers in the Morning, not at night (they take up as much time as they possibly can to not go to bed as with many kids), they say them all by themselves, that’s not a problem, just in the morning.
What I find truly moving, what hits home every day, is that all by themselves, every morning, as I said, they do say Hi. They Acknowledge Who is First. Who Comes First. And at Night, I guess by saying their Prayers, they are giving Thanks for another day.
I will be the first to say that I am probably not getting my point across very well with my Post today. I acknowledge it. So I will simply state what the point is and save you the agony of reading more Home Stories
My Kids Choose the Better Part, and will not let it be taken away from them (Luke 10:38-42).
They are trying to teach me to do the same…
I found the following Information on the Public Health Agency of Canada regarding the Vaccines used and required in Canada.
The ones that I have posted here are the Vaccines that are currently approved for use in Canada (as of May 2006) and that are developed utilizing “human cell lines from ABORTED foetuses, WI-38 and MRC-5″ (Vatican Study, word Aborted capitalized and boldface by From The Pews).
I could not C&P all the information because it’s a bit much, but here is the information that as a Canadian Parent you may want to know about:
|M-M-R® II||MF||SC||Live||M, M, R||Live virus||Gelatine Neomycin Residual components of chick embryo cell cultures||Bovine Serum Glutamate Human albumin Residual protein from cell culture Sorbitol Sucrose|
Though difficult to decipher…the Brand Name is MMR II…If you go back to my post “Vaccines From Aborted Babies“ you will see that this is one of the Vaccines that is made up of Fetal Cell Lines. Ditto for the following.
|Imovax® Rabies||SP||IM||Inactivated||Rab||Killed virus||Neomycin||Human albumin|
|Priorix®||GSK||SC||Live||M, M, R||Live virus||Neomycin||Lactose|
Latex in stopper
|Formaldehyde Polysorbate 20|
|Varivax® III||MF||SC||Live||Var||Live virus||Gelatin
|Bovine serum Glutamate Residual protein from cell culture
Again, as a Parent, as a Catholic Christian Parent, I intend to do my part. Please do yours…
I did not know about this! I had no idea, not an inkling, not a clue…
If it were not for my Blog Surfing, I would never have found out about this Moral Problem.
I had not visited Shoved to them for a while…and did so today. I came across a Post where aka the Mom received a Recognition, the St. Michael Warrior Award. I’ll let you all read about her experience. It was through her experience that I found out about these vaccines and this site:
Children Of God For Life. This site has a letter from the Vatican along with an English translation of a Study done in regards to “tainted” vaccines.
It is not so Black and White. Not in all of the cases.
The study delves into “licit cooperation of evil.” It speaks of formal and material cooperation. Direct and indirect. Proximate and Remote cooperation. Finally, Active and Passive. You are welcome to go to the site and read the paragraphs for yourself.
Here is an excerpt that denounces the active formal cooperation and even the Guilty “Innocent” Bystander (quick tip of the hat to Fr. Mario):
Firstly, one must consider morally illicit every form of formal cooperation (sharing the evil intention) in the action of those who have performed a voluntary abortion, which in turn has allowed the retrieval of foetal tissues, required for the preparation of vaccines. Therefore, whoever – regardless of the category to which he belongs — cooperates in some way, sharing its intention, to the performance of a voluntary abortion with the aim of producing the above-mentioned vaccines, participates, in actuality, in the same moral evil as the person who has performed that abortion. Such participation would also take place in the case where someone, sharing the intention of the abortion, refrains from denouncing or criticizing this illicit action, although having the moral duty to do so (passive formal cooperation).
The above, are guilty. No ifs ands or buts.
Now, where do we as parents stand? Are we guilty if we didn’t know? Are we guilty if we continue using them? Here is what the document states:
[...] Those who need to use such vaccines for reasons of health, it must be emphasized that, apart from every form of formal cooperation, in general, doctors or parents who resort to the use of these vaccines for their children, in spite of knowing their origin (voluntary abortion), carry out a form of very remote mediate material cooperation, and thus very mild, in the performance of the original act of abortion, and a mediate material cooperation, with regard to the marketing of cells coming from abortions, and immediate, with regard to the marketing of vaccines produced with such cells. The cooperation is therefore more intense on the part of the authorities and national health systems that accept the use of the vaccines.
[...] Doctors and fathers of families have a duty to take recourse to alternative vaccines13 (if they exist), putting pressure on the political authorities and health systems so that other vaccines without moral problems become available. They should take recourse, if necessary, to the use of conscientious objection 14 with regard to the use of vaccines produced by means of cell lines of aborted human foetal origin. Equally, they should oppose by all means (in writing, through the various associations, mass media, etc.) the vaccines which do not yet have morally acceptable alternatives, creating pressure so that alternative vaccines are prepared, which are not connected with the abortion of a human foetus, and requesting rigorous legal control of the pharmaceutical industry producers.
[In] regards [to] the diseases against which there are no alternative vaccines which are available and ethically acceptable, it is right to abstain from using these vaccines if it can be done without causing children, and indirectly the population as a whole, to undergo significant risks to their health. However, if the latter are exposed to considerable dangers to their health, vaccines with moral problems pertaining to them may also be used on a temporary basis. The moral reason is that the duty to avoid passive material cooperation is not obligatory if there is grave inconvenience. Moreover, we find, in such a case, a. proportional reason, in order to accept the use of these vaccines in the presence of the danger of favouring the spread of the pathological agent, due to the lack of vaccination of children. This is particularly true in the case of vaccination against German measles15.
In any case, there remains a moral duty to continue to fight and to employ every lawful means in order to make life difficult for the pharmaceutical industries which act unscrupulously and unethically. However, the burden of this important battle cannot and must not fall on innocent children and on the health situation of the population – especially with regard to pregnant women.
If you have no choice, if there are no alternative vaccines, if it is medically necessary for the health and well-being of your child and it is to save the population, then GO FOR IT! Otherwise, abstain. Do not have your children, or yourselves, vaccinated.
No matter what your situation…You MUST, WE ALL MUST voice our Objection to these morally illicit vaccines. Here is a list of them:
The vaccines that are incriminated today as using human cell lines from aborted foetuses, WI-38 and MRC-5, are the following:7
A) Live vaccines against rubella8 :
- the monovalent vaccines against rubella Meruvax®!! (Merck) (U.S.), Rudivax® (Sanofi Pasteur, Fr.), and Ervevax® (RA 27/3) (GlaxoSmithKline, Belgium);
- the combined vaccine MR against rubella and measles, commercialized with the name of M-R-VAX® (Merck, US) and Rudi-Rouvax® (AVP, France);
- the combined vaccine against rubella and mumps marketed under the name of Biavax®!! (Merck, U.S.),
- the combined vaccine MMR (measles, mumps, rubella) against rubella, mumps and measles, marketed under the name of M-M-R® II (Merck, US), R.O.R.®, Trimovax® (Sanofi Pasteur, Fr.), and Priorix® (GlaxoSmithKline UK).
B) Other vaccines, also prepared using human cell lines from aborted foetuses:
- two vaccines against hepatitis A, one produced by Merck (VAQTA), the other one produced by GlaxoSmithKline (HAVRIX), both of them being prepared using MRC-5;
- one vaccine against chicken pox, Varivax®, produced by Merck using WI-38 and MRC-5;
- one vaccine against poliomyelitis, the inactivated polio virus vaccine Poliovax® (Aventis-Pasteur, Fr.) using MRC-5;
- one vaccine against rabies, Imovax®, produced by Aventis Pasteur, harvested from infected human diploid cells, MRC-5 strain;
- one vaccine against smallpox, AC AM 1000, prepared by Acambis using MRC-5, still on trial.
I found a list of ALTERNATIVE VACCINES on another WP Blog, Umm Muhammad Ahmad’s Blog. Here is a bit of it:
The following vaccines do not use fetal cell lines. L= licensed by FDA UL= not licensed by FDA (I do not know if it is possible to obtain unlicensed vaccines in the US. Please E-mail me if you know about this. Also please let me know if there are any more suitable alternatives and any import companies able to supply them.)
Disease Brand name Company Cell line Polio IPOL (L)
Monkey kidney & calf serum
Monkey Kidney cells
Mumps Mumpsvax (L) Provaccine, Switzerland
Merck Sharpe & Dohme USA
Chick embryo Measles Attenuvax (L) Merck sharpe & Dohme USA Rubella Takahashi Strain (UL) Kitasato Institute Rabbit Kidney Rabies (RVA )(L)
RabAvert (PECE) (L)
Chirion Bering Gmbl & Co
Hepatitis A Aimmugen (UL) Chemo-therapeutic Institute Japan (Kaketsuken) Monkey Kidney Flu All brands (L) All manufacturers Chick embryos Yellow Fever YF-Vax (17D) (L) Pasteur Merieux Connaught Chick embryo Japanese Encephalitis JE-Vax (L) Biken Osaka, Distributed by Connaught Mouse derived Smallpox (L) Supplied by CDC
For Laboratory Workers and Military
Last night, the Topic was Balance.
Ideally we are to achieve, and it is our Obligation, as parents, to help our Children achieve, Balance. Physical, Mental and Spiritual Balance.
Father Mario spoke of how in our Society, our Subjective Society, there is plenty of focus on the Physical and Mental realms of our lives. Looking good, being healthy and acquiring information that leads to intelligence, etc. In spite of the focus being on the subject, there is one area of the Subject that society does not concern itself with…the Spiritual.
Truth, Morality, Ethics, it is all being presented as, well, as Subjective! Situational Ethics is all the rage. Society does not pose, nor does it care to pose a Universal Truth, A Universal Code of Morality or Ethics. It all depends on the situation.
Imagine, if Truth depends on the Context, if Morality depends on the Situation, and the same holds true for Ethics, then where does that leave our Sense of Right and Wrong? Where does that leave our Conscience? How does that hold us Accountable or Teach us Responsibility? It doesn’t.
Hence, our need for Spirituality. A Spirituality born of a Steadfast Truth. A Truth that has existed since before You and I and Everything. A Truth that is the Way and is Life. A Truth that Is. A Truth from Christ and from His Spouse, the Church.
Why the Church? Why not just Jesus Christ? Simply put, because we can use all the help we can get. We need the support and guidance of our Mother Church to help us when we are unsure, lost, and lonely.
Father gave us the frightening statistic of how many Catholic Christians actually are PRACTICING Catholic Christians…20%!
Growing up in Southern California via Humble Beginnings, we could not afford a Catholic School education. It was a Private Education, thus, out of our reach. I used to think that the kids in Catholic School were so much better and knowledgable than I. That they were practically sacrosanct! As an adult, having seen the students and that results of those students, I could not have been more wrong.
It seems that a vast majority of the Parents whose children attend a Catholic School seem to think that the school will take care of all of their kids’ Spirtual needs. The Nuns, the Priests, the Teachers…the Parents leave their Kids to them. Don’t we wish it was really that easy?
The results for this sad lack of Responsibility, this lack of Parenting, are kids that don’t Practice their Faith. If the Parents don’t, why would the Kids? They know the theory. They know what they’re supposed to be doing. They know the Sacraments and do follow them, for the most part. But not out of Faith or Love of our Mother Church. They do it out of Tradition, Custom. They’re supposed to do it in order to be able to maintain their appearance of Catholics. And Catholics they are, Easter and Christmas Catholics, as Father put it, for these are the only times that they attend Mass. He also called them Shopping Catholics, for they shop for Baptisms, Confirmations, First Communions, Weddings…They Shop and Buy what suits them.
Wimpified Parents. That’s what he called us.
Once again, he reminded us how we have lost control, authority over our Children. How we should take notes from the Previous Generations. The “Because I Said So” Parents.
They were in Charge, in Control.
The “Comeback” he gets from Parents to this suggestion is, “Father, how can I force my son/daughter to attend Mass?” He told us how other parents, some even Catholic Parents, are appalled, shocked, that these Practicing Catholics ask their children to Practice as well. They are seen as “Extreme.” Scary isn’t it?
Well, Father’s simply asks these Parents, “Do you send your kids to school?” “Do you make your kids eat vegetables and nutritious meals?” And when these Parents respond, “Yes.” Well then he simply points out that they can “make” their kids to go Church as well. He points out that the Parents are ensuring their Intellectual Well-Being and their Physical Well-Being, but what about their Spiritual Well-Being? We will raise a Generation of Healthy, Intelligent Individuals with no clear Understanding of Faith, of Right and Wrong, of Morality.
Case in Point…
Father shared a sad experience that occurred during his first 3 months at our Parish. One night, 6 Youths, averaging 16 years of age, Vandalized the Church. They spray painted – well, Father simply called it Porn so as to not go into the details of it, but I am sure we all have a very good idea what it was -and defaced the Church. He was able to catch the Teens and when he spoke to the Parents, that most were shocked because their son was a Quarter Back, another got straight A’s, etc. These were “good” kids that were excelling in the Physical and Mental arena’s, but, as we can see, they were greatly lacking in the Spiritual Arena.
Even if we are called Cruel, Pushy, Extreme…Isn’t it better to have Balanced Children? Shouldn’t we set a Balanced Example, BE that example so that our Kids can follow and Respect?
What Parent doesn’t want a Healthy, Bright, Responsible, all around Great Kid? A Balanced Child?
I guess there are times when it is okay to speak up, speak out and speak against even the most righteous. But ONLY if that righteous one is wrong. And being human, we are all bound to be wrong, we are human after all.
It’s funny, I was cleaning out my Inbox and came across this link that my Wonderful Mum sent to me:
Soooo, I click on it and it takes me to a page titled:
“The Bible (on one sheet of paper),” with so many choices. I take a quick pick and I wind up at:
Galatians 2 (New International Version)
I will admit that I did a quick read, not too deep or meditated upon…but what I said is the gist of it. Well, there’s more, there’s Paul stating that, “I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. 21I do not set aside the grace of God, for if righteousness could be gained through the law, Christ died for nothing!”
But, there is that whole section of Paul opposing Peter. PETER, the ROCK!
Imagine how difficult it was for Paul.
Okay, perhaps it wasn’t. He was used to being contrary to begin with, but he was a different man now. He knew that Peter was the Rock. And yet, he spoke up and opposed him. What courage!
You see, I need this.
I recall growing up and even as an adult, I would always hear grown-ups around me and my Mama Lola say that God spoke to you in so many ways. All we had to do was listen. Specifically, however, I recall being told that when in doubt, when I felt lost, or needed guidance, to just sit down and open up the Bible and that the Lord would speak to me. That I would “hear” what I needed at that moment.
Well, in our age of technology, many times…okay, I rarely…Fine! I HARDLY EVER sit down to just open up the Bible. And here my Mum sends me this link that serves that just purpose. I just clicked and voilà! What I needed!
I was told a couple of weeks ago by my Baby Bro, my Coma-Sis and my Husband that speaking up and defending my feelings, expressing them rather, was a good thing.
Quite obvious to the vast majority of you, but not so for someone who is always “nice.”
Sadly and quite painfully, at present, I find myself without my Babies, now two teens and a tween, though they will always, always be my Babies! And I have not wanted to rock the boat. I have not wanted to stir the pot. I have not wanted to…I’m sure you understand what I am getting at, I did not want to agitate things for fear of losing them further. Little did I know I was losing them regardless……As I was saying, I really have not stood up for myself, voiced my feelings or opinions in relation to my Babies. This “habit” as you may have guessed, carried over into other areas. I did not know that either…Unbelievable, innit!! But I didn’t. I didn’t even really consciously realize that I was clamming up. I just went with what felt right at the moment. It may not have felt right, right, but it was a pretty good choice at the time.
Oh the convolutions of it all!!
What I am saying is that when you start to not speak up, even when you should, when you ought to, then, what happens is that you become accustomed to not doing it at all until that is who you become. That is who I was becoming. More accurately, who I became. A couple of weeks ago, as I stated, I was pushed, in a good way, to speak up.
I gotta tell ya, I was sh**ting myself! Pardon my language, but I was! I was nauseous, I felt sick, my stomach hurt, I was trembling, there was no way, no way that I could speak up. But I did. I DID!
I spoke up against the righteous. Or at least that’s what they think they are, and to some degree, they are. Infallible? By no means! Perfect? Please, we’re talking about humans! But do they have a right to be hurt? Yes! Does that hurt give them the right to abuse? Absolutely, positively NOT! And I said so!
YAY, ME! Will there be backlash? You’d better Believe It!!
But speaking out against what is wrong, against hypocrisy that is leading others astray…well, that’s what Paul did! And I guess to some degree, that’s what I did too!
11When Peter came to Antioch, I opposed him to his face, because he was clearly in the wrong. 12Before certain men came from James, he used to eat with the Gentiles. But when they arrived, he began to draw back and separate himself from the Gentiles because he was afraid of those who belonged to the circumcision group. 13The other Jews joined him in his hypocrisy, so that by their hypocrisy even Barnabas was led astray.
Having read this passage, having lived it, I know WHY I found it.
Thanks be to God.
Oh, and I am listening, or at least trying to…
This I cannot take credit for…But I felt we could all be reminded of this…ENJOY!
A message every adult should read because children
are watching you and doing as you do, not as you say.
When you thought I wasn’t looking I saw you hang my
first painting on the refrigerator, and I immediately
wanted to paint another one.
When you thought I wasn’t looking I saw you feed a
stray cat, and I learned that it was good to be kind
When you thought I wasn’t looking I saw you make my
favorite cake for me, and I learned that the little
things can be the special things in life.
When you thought I wasn’t looking I heard you say a
prayer, and I knew that there is a God I could always
talk to, and I learned to trust in Him.
When you thought I wasn’t looking I saw you make a
meal and take it to a friend who was sick, and I
learned that we all have to help take care of each other.
When you thought I wasn’t looking I saw you take care
of our house and everyone in it, and I learned we have
to take care of what we are given.
When you thought I wasn’t looking I saw how you
handled your responsibilities, even when you didn’t
feel good, and I learned that I would have to be
responsible when I grow up.
When you thought I wasn’t looking I saw tears come
from your eyes, and I learned that sometimes things
hurt, but it’s all right to cry.
When you thought I wasn’t looking I saw that you
cared, and I wanted to be everything that I could be..
When you thought I wasn’t looking I learned most of
life’s lessons that I need to know to be a good and
productive person when I grow up.
When you thought I wasn’t looking I looked at you and
wanted to say,’Thanks for all the things I saw when
you thought I wasn’t looking.’
Each of us (parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle, teacher, friend) influences the life of a child.
Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly.